Wednesday, November 7, 2007

If sparklemotion had a sound....

Michael Jackson would sing it.
Love him. New album and Ebony mag cover coming soon.

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

I think I just vomited in my mouth a little

Fall in Love for a Good Cause
New York Times
By STEPHANIE ROSENBLOOM
Published: November 4, 2007

ON the spectrum of aspiring Cupids, Pari Livermore ought to be categorized somewhere between the hundreds of professional matchmakers and the millions of meddling grannies, bubbies, nanas and nonnas.

Ms. Livermore — a motherly bowl-cut blonde who is married to Putnam Livermore, an attorney and one of the founders of the Trust for Public Land — has facilitated the affaire de coeur for a number of high-profile singles: a hedge fund executive, a beauty pageant winner, a neurologist, even a princess. There are matchmakers who charge thousands of dollars for this sort of thing. Ms. Livermore, on the other hand, attempts to kindle sparks free of charge.

Well, sort of.

She said she does not personally profit by arranging set-ups for San Francisco lonely hearts. Rather she asks those who seek her assistance to donate money or time to one of a dozen or so charities. In the last 19 years her introductions and singles parties have resulted in more than 200 marriages and raised about $3 million for nonprofit organizations including the American Cancer Society, the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation and the American Heart Association.

“If I think I can help them,” Ms. Livermore said, “I make them help in some charitable way.”
She does not advertise her services, which generally attract singles 30 to 60. A majority are friends and family of couples she has united. The rest are fetching women she spots around town, be it in Whole Foods or at the gynecologist’s office.

“I met her in the salon that I work at,” said Laurel Emminger, a hairstylist who met her fiancĂ©e, Richard Katz, through Ms. Livermore. “She was getting her nails done. She overheard me saying: ‘Oh I just broke up with some boyfriend. I’m single again, how do I meet somebody?’ She said, ‘Excuse me, I’m having a party in three days.’”

Ms. Livermore raises money in multiple ways. About 60 male clients are designated as patrons, meaning that they usually donate up to $10,000 a year (though it can be much more or less) directly to a charity.

“She kind of sizes you up for what you can afford and extracts it from you,” said Mr. Katz, a lawyer and onetime patron.

Ms. Livermore then arranges dates for them and invites them to parties. “If they don’t like what I do for them, I will often refund their money, which a matchmaker will not do,” she said. “That’s maybe only happened two or three times.”

Additionally, she finds about 100 women who, instead of donating large sums, volunteer to be on a committee for Ms. Livermore’s Red & White Ball, a singles charity event held every other year in San Francisco that attracts up to 1,000 attendees. Other singles contribute by buying tickets to the ball and other parties. Then there are the parents who surreptitiously make a charitable donation with the hope that Ms. Livermore will find their children a match. (Ms. Livermore said these conversations usually begin: “Couldn’t you please call Robert up and say you’ve heard of him? I don’t like the women he’s choosing.”)

Friends of Ms. Livermore attribute her success to the time she takes getting to know people, her refusal to judge them for the things they want in a mate and the X-factor: her intuition.
When Irina Gerhard met Ms. Livermore, she found her to be startlingly upfront, asking about her interests, her goals, her job, even her weight. “She’s asking a lot of questions that some women wouldn’t appreciate,” Ms. Gerhard said. “But you know what? That gets her a database.”

Ms. Gerhard worked for Ms. Livermore for a couple of years but practically had to be coerced into accepting a date. “I thought I didn’t need any help,” Ms. Gerhard said. To get Ms. Livermore off her back, she said, she agreed to one. But only one. That man is now her husband.
“I thank Pari every day,” Ms. Gerhard said.

Ms. Livermore began setting people up to garner popularity when she was in high school. She sat on the opposing team’s bleachers during football games so she could meet kids from other schools and introduce them to her classmates. A Jane Austen fan (naturally) who believes that “every nice girl should get married,” she is decidedly feminine.

But her husband was not keen on her working as a professional matchmaker. “He said, ‘You know, in our family we don’t have businesses like that,’” she said. “His family didn’t do that. Most of the women didn’t work.” He gave his blessing, though, to matchmaking for charity.

Ms. Livermore’s latest enterprise, the book “How to Marry a Fabulous Man,” will be published on Tuesday (30 percent of the proceeds go to charity), and it includes advice about the merits of cooking for and otherwise being indispensable to a man, saying “I love you” (“Don’t say it first”) and never revealing one’s age.

“Men have very clear ideas what age they’re looking for,” she said. “If I see someone that’s right for him, I never lie but the way I avoid this is I say to women: ‘Don’t tell me your age but I’m going to guess you’re probably in your early 30s. That’s what I’m going to tell people.’”

Ms. Livermore — whose husband of 19 years does not know how old she is — tends to pair attractive younger women with financially successful men. Many have been married before.

MS. EMMINGER, 48, met Mr. Katz, 69, at the Red & White ball last April. She was volunteering as an escort, leading men into the ballroom. Mr. Katz found her dress appealing. He complimented her, danced with her, then told her to dance with other men because she looked too young. He wanted a woman with whom he could talk, one who had some “water under her bow,” one old enough, he said, to be utterly comfortable in her own skin. Besides, he had been burned before. When a 42-year-old woman he had been dating learned he was 24 years her elder, she said, “I can’t bring a guy home who’s older than my mother.”

“When I took the dagger out of my heart,” Mr. Katz said, “I said, ‘I ain’t ever going through this again.’”

But Ms. Emminger and Mr. Katz did not stay away from each other for long and, as Ms. Livermore advised, they did not discuss age until their relationship — which now includes golf outings, horseback riding and wine tasting — blossomed. By then, the years didn’t matter. They became engaged last week.

Ms. Livermore’s advice also came in handy for Gretchen Schomer Wendel, an author of children’s books who attempted to transition from girlfriend to wife by using what Ms. Livermore calls “the velvet hammer” — giving a boyfriend a sweet but serious one-month ultimatum.

“When a year rolled around he gave me some nice pearls and I was like, ‘That’s very nice but I don’t want pearls, I want a ring,’” said Ms. Wendel, who had met her noncommittal boyfriend through Ms. Livermore. “He turned white.”

He wanted six weeks to decide. Ms. Wendel gave him four.

“He waited to the last day of the four weeks,” she said.

She married Hal Wendel on May 20, 2000. They are the parents of Clayton, 5, and Megan, 2.

The irony in this situation has no bounds

The Naked Truth About Charity Golf Tournament
From wsbtv.com

ATLANTA -- An Atlanta woman’s shelter said it’s both shocked and outraged that a golf outing featuring nude dancers claimed, without permission, that it was a charity event to raise money for the shelter. An undercover investigation by Channel 2 Action News found the tournament, organized by a company that owns a cluster of Atlanta strip clubs, did not get approval to use the charity’s name.

Charity golf outings are popular in the adult entertainment business. Participants pay big bucks to drink and play while surrounded by scantily clad or totally nude dancers. The outing Channel 2 producers investigated last month may have broken several laws according to Fulton County Police. And they have another problem, claiming they were hosting the charity for a shelter that rescues women and children from the streets of Atlanta.

It was a beautiful fall day for golf at the Wolf Creek Golf Club. Sunshine, a gentle breeze and some sights you probably wouldn’t expect -- strip club dancers walking around with less than proper golf attire.

“It’s appalling, I mean, there’s children that ride through here. I’m walking with my baby and I would hate to see that,” said homeowner Dorene Gardner.

Well over a hundred dancers converged out on putting greens and fairways. Many were totally naked.

The signs in more open areas of the golf course told dancers to keep their bikinis on. But from the back decks of some homes, there was a clear view of women who were partially or totally nude.

The scene happened about a hundred yards from a cul-de-sac where children were playing football.

“I am terribly upset about that. I had no idea we would have that kind of activity in the neighborhood,” said resident Shirline Johnson.

The supposed charity golf outing was advertised in Creative Loafing and sponsored by a group of adult nightclubs. The cost was $175 per golfer. Alcohol was flowing and dancers charged $300 to caddy.

Organizers told Channel 2 producers that it was all for a good cause. The money raised would help support the Atlanta Day Shelter for Women and Children. We thought we’d show them some pictures of what happened on the golf course.

“That’s a naked lady…oh my gosh she is naked,” said shelter director Shirley Baker. “I can’t even believe they would do this. We are a Christian-based ministry and there is no way…oh wow.”

The shelter operations manager told Channel 2 they were never informed that a nude golf charity event was being staged using their name. They said they would never accept money raised in that fashion.

“To attach our name to something like this, that’s deplorable,” Baker said.

So what did the strip clubs have to say about falsely using the name of a shelter for battered women for their nude golf charity event? And where did all that money go?

The event organizer, Dan White, didn't have much to say. He slipped back into the Gold Rush Show Bar before Channel 2 could ask a single question. He sent a blunt message through his security guard. “No comment. That’s what I was told to say,” the security guard said.

Channel 2’s Tom Regan also did not get much help form the manager of the golf shop. He said he didn’t know anything about the fundraiser. “Where are the nude women? You got nude women here? If we had that going on do you think my parking lot would be as empty as it is,” asked golf shop manager Andre Jones.

The company that owns the adult clubs, Garaldi South, faxed Channel 2 a copy of a $750 cashiers check which their lawyer said was dropped off at the front desk of the shelter last month. The shelter’s director and financial administrator said they never received a check nor is Jack Garaldi in any of their records.

“That’s trash. To attach our name to something like that is totally wrong,” said Baker.
Garaldi’s lawyer said after expenses the event lost money.

The event did not have the appropriate legal permit to pour liquor and according to state officials, was violating the law. Fulton County police also said the women dancers likely violated laws prohibiting public nudity.

Monday, November 5, 2007

How appropriate for the 5th of November

All hell has broken loose in Pakistan. The laundry list of civil rights violations makes me laugh my crazy lady laugh. Even Bush is like, "Cut the games, Musharaff. Pleeeease?"

Did you know we gave this asshole and his regime $150 million PER MONTH to support his work against "terrorism"?

Everyone who is anyone in the fight against this injustice is getting rounded up and arrested. Lawyers, political activists, students, etc. are being shut down by the military while their leader suspended their constitution and fired judges who opposed his leadership.

Meanwhile in America, our "leaders" are barely batting an eye. While thousands suffer, we are trying to figure out the best way to maintain our diplomatic ties with an asshole leader who goes against the purest prinicipals of democracy.

The above picture shows a lawyer being hauled off by plain clothes policemen during a protest. Take a cue, Americans.

Happy Guy Fawkes Day!

For all those people who think V is just a character, here's some info on the real V, Guy Fawkes.

Friday, November 2, 2007

Our very own Al Sharpton

From the files of Pointless Protests and Wasted Energy:

Black On Black Crime, Survivors/Victims of Tragedy and Cleveland school
students will speak outside Tower City at 3:15 today about the new policy that
keeps teens out of the building when not accompanied by a parent or
guardian.

"We have many pertinent and important questions which our community
needs answers to concerning our kids," Art McKoy said in a news release.

The group hopes to meet with management to discuss a plan that would be
better than a boycott of the stores there, a news release said.

Yeah, Bama, and you wouldn't use the nigger card, sure.

Just because you're the only Black candidate doesn't prevent you from coming off as a top-notch asshole. I'm pretty sure if the roles were switched, he'd be crying out against the "high-tech lynching" that he was receiving.

I'm sorry John, Barack, Hillary: where are you again on the following:

- the war
- education
- The Gays
- women's health
- healthcare for all
- foreign policy
- social security
- jobs

I can't tell, cuz all you hoes keep talking about ya'll selves. Knock it off.

Thursday, November 1, 2007

I believe the words I am looking for are: Told you so.

What did I say? What did I say? Exactly.

Brang it ooooooown

FirstEnergy hired some fancy pants lobbyist to further its evil plan to monopolize the region's energy rates. Link has useful back story. I'll let you figure out why you should be concerned.

-----> waiting

OK. Because the damn company wants to have sole control over setting prices. This new legislation would require them to come to the Public Utilities Commission before setting prices and if the Comission says, "hey, wait a minute. You can't charge this, it's like totally too high.", then FirstEnergy couldn't do it. Hence, protecting the consumer. This bloggy has a good explanation of the fuckedupedness that is this situation.

So, come on fancy lobby man: show me what you got. Ya bastard.

My Dream Job with Only ONE Problem

Got this posting emailed to me from several cool people I know. They know me pretty well because this is my dream job. The mission rocks. I can't get bored. Love, love, love it. However...the pay is a joke.

What they are calling a Development Associate is really a Development Director and in some orgs, an Associate Director. And they still need you to answer the phones and do "light bookkeeping"????

I see several positions in this posting:
- foundation relations manager
- special events manager
- major gifts coordinator
- volunteer manager
- annual campaign coordinator
- public relations and marketing manager

At least.

I know they probably can't pay more than that, but it then speaks to the fact that many nonprofits have their hands tied because they have so much to do and no one to do it. People who care about social justice sometimes can't afford to make it their career. That sucks. it's cyclical: you need money to hire people. You need people to raise money. People deserve to be paid what they're worth and get paid enough to have a sustainable lifestyle that doesn't involve living check-to-check.

Second dream job I have seen where compensation has been the buzzkill.

Responsibilities
The Development Associate will have job responsibilities in two major areas: fund development and volunteer management. Specific responsibilities include:

· Create fundraising materials such as direct mail appeals, funding proposals, donor acknowledgement letters, and other informational materials that support the development program.
· Maintain records and conduct research on major donors and prospects. Assist Executive Director in setting and preparing for major donor visits and conduct donor cultivation.
· Work with volunteer committee to plan and coordinate special events, including developing corporate sponsorships.
· Collaborate with other staff to write grant proposals. Research new grant opportunities, manage grant reporting requirements.
· Meet member organization requirements for Community Shares. Serve on committee, manage workplace giving campaigns and submit required paperwork.
· Manage volunteer and paid telemarketing to prospects and members.
· Assist with the publication of annual report and organizational newsletter.
· Manage volunteer activities and assist Executive Director with managing interns.
· Represent organization at public events.
· Administrative tasks including management of the donor database, light bookkeeping and answering the phones.
· Special tasks and projects as assigned.

Qualifications
The qualified candidate must have a college degree and specific work experience in development and marketing. Superb communication skills, exemplary writing skills, ability to work with a team, sense of humor and enthusiasm for reproductive rights are essential. Proficiency in Microsoft Word and Excel required. Knowledge of DonorPerfect software a plus.

Hours and Compensation
Annual Full Time Salary Range: $25,000 - $30,000. Competitive benefits package. Some evenings and weekends required.